Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

It's easy to get wrapped up in the chemistry and connection with someone without actually being objective if they have the capacity of a relationship (or the type of relationship you want!) right now. As someone who learned the hard way spending years with people who weren't ready, Julie takes you through 5 questions she'd ask today to get a better feel of where someone was at (many of which she had discussed with her now-husband as well!). She shares why it's best to ask these types of questions early, how to ask them without it feeling like a daterview, and ways to really listen to the way they respond. Enjoy!

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We're back with a crowd favorite of when we interview each other! This week, Julie interviews Yue, starting with her reflections on 2025 and how she learned to not shrink herself and embrace the freedom to be her true self. She also drops something so surprising (she even had Julie in shock!) related to her current relationship and how she's been able to work through the challenges of understanding each other's definitions of freedom. We discuss future goals for 2026, how she's aiming for more alignment, and the ways she's working to build a rich life for herself and with her partner. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
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With the throwback to 2016 trend, Yue reflected back to what she was like during that time when dating. As someone who was often told she was "intimidating", she shares how she used to view this as a badge of honor and as a way to attract men, but now realizes it was code for being emotionally unavailable and attracting all the wrong types of people. She shares why this actually held her back in dating, the shifts she made, and why she wants to be viewed as open and available instead. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Our Sponsors:
* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE
* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE
* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLE


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We often ask "Are they ready for a relationship?" but the more important questions is "Are you ready?" We're revealing 10 questions you need to ask yourself now to see how you relate to others, know when to stay vs walk away, and trust yourself in the process of finding love. We're also doing a final segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya, about taking initiative on dating apps to actually make dates happen (and how to make it crystal clear if you're ready or not). Enjoy!

Learn more and download Satya today: https://www.satyadating.com/

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Our Sponsors:
* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE
* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE
* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLE


Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donations

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We talk about the need for emotional intelligence all the time, but what about relational intelligence? In many ways, it's as important or if not more! In today's episode, Julie's taking about the 5 stages of Relational Intelligence and how to put them into motion when applied to the common dating scenario of someone you're into not texting or setting up plans as quickly as you'd like. Julie shares why regulating before you act is so important, the type of text you can send to get the clarity you need, and how to move forward with this information. Enjoy!

Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Download the Dateable AI Coaching App: https://studio.com/dateable

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Our Sponsors:
* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE
* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE
* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLE


Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donations

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