Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

What happens when your tween or teen turns to AI for advice… or even FRIENDSHIP? Today’s kids sometimes experiment with AI chatbots in ways that many parents don’t see coming. While some of their interactions may be harmless, the risks are real.

In this episode of Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens, psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack the hidden dangers of AI companions, the developmental vulnerabilities of younger teens, and the steps every parent can take to keep kids safe without overreacting.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why AI “companions” can be especially dangerous for tweens and young teens- How AI captures kids’ attention using hyper-personal data- The real risks: sycophantic affirmations, harmful advice, no safety nets- Warning signs your child may be overly dependent on AI- The most effective guardrails: keeping tech out of bedrooms, building skepticism, and starting ongoing conversations- How strong parent–teen relationships are the ultimate protection against manipulative technology

This conversation turns anxiety into actionable, compassionate guidance, helping you protect your kids while staying connected in a rapidly changing digital world.

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Your teen may already know about Zyns, even if you don’t. These discreet little nicotine pouches are popping up in schools, backpacks, and social media feeds, and many parents are only just starting to hear about them. But what makes Zyns so appealing to kids, and how worried should you be if you find them in your home?

In this episode of Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens, Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack the rise of Zyns and vaping among teens. With warmth, empathy, and clear-eyed expertise, they explain what Zyns are, why teens are drawn to them, and how parents can respond without overreacting or losing their child’s trust.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- What Zyns are, how they work, and why they’re spreading among teens.

- The neurological and physical risks of nicotine use for developing brains.

- Why teens are vulnerable to marketing claims like “focus,” “confidence,” and “energy”—and how to push back effectively.

- Practical ways to start the conversation: what to ask, what to say, and what not to do.

- How to frame nicotine use as a matter of manipulation and control—so teens see how companies profit from addiction.

- Why matching your reaction to the actual threat level helps maintain trust with your tween or teen.

Parenting in today’s world means staying ahead of trends our generation never faced. This episode equips you with timely insight, expert perspective, and concrete strategies for tackling the Zyns conversation with confidence.



https://keck.usc.edu/news/use-of-nicotine-pouches-increases-significantly-among-u-s-teens/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39002807/

American Lung Association on Zyns: https://www.lung.org/blog/zyn-nicotine-addiction

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Watching your child head off to college is a proud moment. But what happens when the late-night phone calls come, full of tears and homesickness? If your teen or young adult is struggling with the transition, you’re not alone. More and more students are finding the leap to college emotionally overwhelming, and parents are often left wondering: Should I step in, or step back?

In this episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens,” psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan share compassionate, practical advice to help parents navigate this milestone. Dr. Lisa draws on decades of expertise and her own parenting experience to explain why homesickness is normal, how to support your child without taking over, and what to do if college just isn’t the right fit… at least for now.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why homesickness is on the rise (and why it’s not a sign of failure)

- How to balance being available with encouraging independence

- Ways to support younger siblings who are missing their college-aged sibling

- How to assess college readiness and when to consider alternative paths

Whether your child is weeks away from college or already on campus, this conversation offers reassurance, perspective, and strategies you can use right now.



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Is the pressure of college admissions overwhelming your family? You’re not alone. Between endless AP classes, campus tours, and the unspoken competition of “where did your kid get in?”, it’s easy for parents to feel consumed by stress and worry. But what if the path to your teen’s success isn’t about getting into the “best” school, but finding the right one?

In this episode of Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens, Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan sit down with bestselling author and higher education expert Jeff Selingo, author of Dream School: Finding the College That's Right for You, to rethink what makes a college the “dream school.” Drawing on decades of research and thousands of parent and student stories, Jeff helps families step back from the frenzy and see the college search for what it truly is: a chance to find the right fit for your child’s growth, learning, and future.

- Why prestige isn’t everything, and why outcomes from mid-tier schools often match those from elite institutions

- How to help your teen find a college where they’ll truly belong, both socially and academically

- The surprising research on student satisfaction, faculty connections, and opportunities at different types of schools

- Smart ways to talk with your teen about money, financial aid, and realistic college costs

- Why the approach your child takes to college matters more than the name on the diploma

Warm, practical, and myth-busting, this conversation will help you and your teen navigate the admissions maze with less anxiety and more clarity.





Dream School: Finding the College That’s Right for You https://jeffselingo.com/books/dream-school

Study: The Determinants and Causal Effects of Admission to Highly Selective Private Colleges https://opportunityinsights.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/CollegeAdmissions_Paper.pdf



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Your teen just found out their school is banning phones, and they’re furious, anxious, or both! What now?

If you’re the parent of a tween or teen, you know how quickly a rule about phones can spiral into conflict. Phone bans at school can feel like a loss of freedom for kids and a source of anxiety for everyone. But what if this change could actually strengthen your child’s focus, coping skills, and resilience, while also giving your family new ways to connect?

In this episode of Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens, renowned clinical psychologist and best-selling author Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan dig into the real impact of school phone bans. They share practical strategies for talking with your kids about this shift, helping them adjust, and surprising upsides you may not have considered.

You’ll learn:

- Why phone bans can actually support teen mental health

- How to frame the conversation with your child so they feel understood

- The unexpected benefits beyond classroom focus

- Simple strategies to help teens cope with new restrictions

What do you think? Should schools have bell-to-bell phone bans, or should kids be allowed access during breaks? Share your thoughts in the comments!



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